I have been amiss with my blog postings and have made it my intention to post at minimum once a month. The world has changed dramatically since I decided to start this business of teaching people Reiki and how to love and grow. Part of learning how to teach people is to also experience it. I have found through the countless classes I have taken in my life that experience is a teacher that holds the strongest message for me. You learn by trying - trying to do something new, trying to do something differently. You learn by trying what is working and what isn't working. Especially when it comes to us humans. We aren't all the same, it's not unlike a small engine or a nut and bolt. It's complex and intricate and we have to try things out to see what fits with each of our individual personalities. You learn by watching - watching someone do something that holds interest for you. I remember watching my Gram make Irish Soda Bread. While I have her recipe to follow, pieces of what I learned would be lost from "just" reading it. By watching Gram, I saw that the raisins need to be plump and dry but not shriveled. This is harder to explain and easier to be shown. I learned the steps of the unspoken words in Gram’s recipe by watching her. You learn by doing - actually taking a stab at what you've thought about trying, what you may have watched be done, and then doing it. In actually doing something you learn how it works, what may make it better, and what isn't working. So this spring, I am returning to some of my roots. I am returning to help, educate, and offer support for people that don't fit into the standardized philosophies of what works in helping others. I have a thousand slogans to toss out to you, but again, they don't always provide the solution or the support everyone needs. While working in various settings of rehab centers, I realized that each person entering had a unique experience, a unique starting point, bottom point, ending point. However, each and every one of them sought out one general thing - loving acceptance. You may not think this is powerful but think about a time when you messed up or when you had to tell someone you cared about that you screwed up. What was your sincere wish while telling them what went wrong? Don't stop loving me and don't stop accepting me for me. I enjoy teaching, . I always have. My fondest memories of working were the teachable moments. Whether in a group setting, individual setting, or in a public forum, teaching made me smile. Witnessing the moment when a person gets it, not because I gave them the answer but because they found that answer within themselves, just by being them authentically and by being lovingly accepted for who they are. Allowing them to learn from guidance and supportive love from others who understand the difficulty
To maintain sobriety, mental health, physical health, and weight loss for example, you have to learn what works for you. What is that key that unlocks your fears, your road blocks. The ones that are in the way of moving forward to enjoy another day. Finding that in support in each other, supporting another lifts you up to another level of leaning what you are capable of and how just sharing a part of your heart, your experience changes another. It's eye opening and once you learn the trick. Life isn't such a challenge any longer and staying clean isn't as hard today as it was yesterday. It adds perspective to your abilities, your desires to achieve what you want and loosing the fear of failure. I am starting a substance abuse support group this spring. We will start monthly and take it from there. It will respond to the needs of who comes, who wants it, and who needs it. It is open to anyone with at least a one year clean as well as to parents, spouses, adult children, partners, friends who want support in loving someone who used drugs. I want to bring love, hope, and support to you. I want you to feel free to allow yourself to become the best you can become. In this group, you will have a safe haven to let go and share your fears and your roadblocks to your success. This is for you to come talk, listen, cry, scream, hug a horse. It's all you need it to be to heal.